Be careful for what you wish for

I am so crazy you guys. I have way too many options and it has led me to go all over. I came back to my hometown for a relationship, but it didn’t work out. In the meantime, I worked and just got a new one. I was so desperate to get my foot in the door to work at an educational setting. But now I’m feeling torn again. I want to relocate, but there’s this new job too.

Can you believe it? Just this summer, I was going to settle for a relationship, house, and job not even related to my degree. I didn’t even know how it was all going to happen. I just knew I could make it happen. That’s my downfall sometimes, I don’t make room for error, because I don’t plan on making an error. When an error happens, I simply make a new plan. I know, I know, “Failure to plan is a plan to fail.”

I was having a quarter life crisis. I finished my bachelors. I went to graduate school for one semester. I worked for a whole year at a place to gain the experience I needed. Then I dropped out of graduate school to try a career change. It’s true that I constantly want to please and impress the people around me. I really wanted that master degree for all my loved ones to say they knew someone close to them with one. I felt that a master degree would prove my worth in all levels of life: family, academic, employment, economic, relationships, and anything else I can rub it in.

But the only person I needed to impress was myself. It’s funny how hard I work in other people’s eyes, but my only life goal was to be able to afford a roof over my head and food. I could’ve done that without a bachelor degree, which came with loans, but with great experiences too. I was never a motivated person, even if it appears to be so (well, maybe just not academically). If I can live an honest life, it would be to make money for traveling purposes, and document it of course. The getting to know people and helping the community will come around. I’m not stress about my accomplishments. I’m just stressed at how I’m trying to impress anyone.

Ok, trying to get to know myself for the past month has actually been making me counsel others to channel their own identities. Maybe I should really become a counselor; I am constantly counseling myself to chill out.

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Great Achievements Involve Great Risk

Whoaaa! This article about the Dalai Lama’s 18 rules of living was awesome. Rules one and two hit me right away.

Rule 1. Take into account that great love and great achievements involve great risk.
I am currently going through this right now. A short term job while I apply for others.

Rule 2. When you lose, don’t lose the lesson.
Yes, yes, yes. I will be stronger.

Rule 3. Follow the three Rs: 1. Respect for self 2. Respect for others 3. Responsibility for all your actions.

Rule 4. Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck.
Yes, like all those relationships that never happened.

Rule 5. Learn the rules so you know how to break them properly.
:D I am pretty rebellious, after all.

Rule 6. Don’t let a little dispute injure a great friendship.
I don’t even have friends…maybe that’s why.

Rule 7. When you realize you’ve made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.
This is especially important when it comes to work.

Rule 8. Spend some time alone every day.
I love quality time alone!

Rule 9. Open your arms to change, but don’t let go of your values.
Kind of like a relationship. Remember who you are and what you stand for.

Rule 10. Remember that silence is sometimes the best answer.
I know. Sometimes I get so mad, I don’t even know what to say.

Rule 11. Live a good, honorable life. Then when you get older and think back, you’ll be able to enjoy it a second time.

Rule 12. A loving atmosphere in your home is the foundation for your life.
Yes, everything begins with the home.

Rule 13. In disagreements with loved ones, deal only with the current situation. Don’t bring up the past.
Yes, sensei.

Rule 14. Share your knowledge. It’s a way to achieve immortality.
Right…this was what I was after. I just wanted to share my knowledge of some knowledge.

Rule 15. Be gentle with the earth.
I recycle.

Rule 16. Once a year, go someplace you’ve never been before.
There are plenty of places.

Rule 17. Remember that the best relationship is one in which your love for each other exceeds your need for each other.
Sounds like family.

Rule 18. Judge your success by what you had to give up in order to get it
Yes, yes, yes. That is so true. Giving up my life during graduate school helped me become successful

But in all seriousness, these are great rules of living.

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Blessings in Disguise

Hi Everyone!

This is my 17th entry on this blog. I am so excited to start working part time while gaining the experience I need for the next step of my career. I wished the opportunity happened earlier, so I would already be on the next part of this ladder. In other words, I am delayed in my "life timeline." With all this extra free time, I've been thinking about how to fill it up, because that's what I've always done; keep myself busy. Sometimes that worries me when I think about my future as a mumma, How will I manage that part of me and my children? I don't have to think about it yet, but I do have to think about how to make the best out of what I have right now.

Here's a list of things that I want to do:
  • Family
  • Volunteer
    • The WI Central Literacy Council
    • UnitedWay
  • Workstudy 8 hrs a week @ NTC + DNR
  • Vlog! I think I haven't really seen a strong Hmong and female (to be specific) who has been consistent with this.
    • learning new things (at an 'old' age, family)
    • Trips
    • My views
    • Conference
    • Hmong stuff (iono, like stories)
    • Interviews (love stories, people's decisions, what makes people happy)
  • Of course, more blogging. I miss writing. My last goal was once a month, but I think I can really do more this time.
I will be honest that I am a little worry about the financial part of this transition, but as much as I want to simply take on another full time position during those free times, I don't think it's worth it. I have decided to take this time to live life slowly, and document it. How often will this happen in my life? I know down the line, I will one day work 40+ hours a week. I mean, what will I really need with more $$$? I just want more...

I will take this time as a blessing. I'm going to miss working full time and making more, but I there is a lot to gain with this transition. Maybe this is my freedom.

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Your Future is Created by What You do Today

What does this mean?

I learned this the hard way. It was my sophomore year in college when I needed two recommendation letters for a summer scholarship application. After two years of school, I couldn't find anyone to write me any genuine recomendation letters. Without those letters, my application would be incomplete. I continued my search for the 2nd recommendation letter and found one. The lesson I learned from this encounter was obvious; get to know people and get out there. We hear it all the time but we don't do much. I failed to work on building relationships with my professors and advisers to write me those recommendation letters in the future. After this incident, I became more involved with my campus, took on leadership roles, and built relationships with professors and advisors. It is so important that you get involve with your campus or community to provide real evidence of your abilities. Participate more in class, so your professor can easily write a recommendation letter of your eagerness to learn. Volunteer for your community to show that you're passionate in your community's growth. Your future is created by what you do today, so get out there!

In the future, as you apply for jobs, are you prepared for those questions? How do you respond to these common interview questions? According to, these are a few of the top 50 interview questions:

  • What Are Your Weaknesses?
  • Why Should We Hire You?
  • What Are Your Goals?
  • Where do you see yourself in 5 years? 10 years?
  • Tell me about an accomplishment you are most proud of.
  • Tell me about a time you made a mistake.
  • Discuss your educational background.
  • Tell me how you handled a difficult situation.
  • Are you a leader or a follower?
  • What are some of your leadership experiences?
A journey of a thousand miles starts with a single step

What kind of steps are you taking toward your future? Please share

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